The following links point to useful readings and websites of interest to those seeking psychological or mental health general education. Dr. Diez does not necessarily endorse their content nor have any control over the website's privacy policies.
Couples Relationships
Intimacy
Psychotherapies
Identity and Self
On the tyranny self-criticism
Being tough on yourself, especially when you've gone in the wrong direction, can make you stronger. But when you can't turn that voice off, it can limit your potential. Fortunately, there are proven ways to retake control.
Just minutes into her interview at the white-shoe law firm, Elena heard the voice, that voice, in her head. They see right through me . Biting the inside of her cheek, she gazed at the faces around her. I'm not one of them , it said. I'm a lightweight . It struck Elena, a recent law-school graduate, that she was the only woman in the room with the dark wood paneling and marble floors, the only face that might not belong in a colonial-era portrait gallery. She fumbled through the next three questions.
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Work
My boss is an a-hole. Should I quit?
Managers correct mistakes. That’s their right. But, no one can give a boss the right to call you an ignoramus, especially in front of an audience. Somehow, you have to reduce the abuse dished out by narcissistic bosses. Telling them off and storming out in a huff won’t help. The fleeting satisfaction you receive from landing a verbal punch is a luxury you can’t afford.So, what can you do? Logic dictates that we can’t reason with the enraged. Listen hard, plot your strategy, and choose your words wisely. That’s how to handle a narcissistic boss.
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My boss is a narcissist. How do I deal with him?
As a college student and aspiring writer, I worked part-time at the local newspaper. One day, the editor called me into his office. “I have an important assignment for you,” he said, then handed me his coat with a loose button to take to the tailor shop to be repaired. I looked back in disbelief—he wanted me to leave my desk, abandon my work, and drive across town so a tailor could sew on his button?
It was Saturday. His secretary wasn’t there. All the reporters were out covering stories. I was the only one at the news desk, but I did his errand—I’d heard about his terrible temper. This was only a small example. The editor was a petty potentate, a narcissist who exploited the newsroom staff, driving them crazy with his demands.
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How to manage conflicts at the workplace
The cost of conflict in the workplace can be very high. While conflict cannot be avoided, the approach to its solution makes all the difference. In this post, you learn to recognize which attitude and skills help to handle in a constructive way conflict in the workplace.
Conflict in the workplace is a shared experience.
Discriminatory practices, lousy performance reviews, customs dissatisfaction, personality clashes, all contribute to a challenging working environment.
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The Psychology of Risk
Risk Perception: What is at stake?
1. Thinking about the next ten years, do you think your health will be better than average, average, or worse than average?2. Which of the following statements feels worse; A. "The number of Soviet citizens put to death by Joseph Stalin is estimated to be as high as five million." B. "Petr Kolyakov was 15 years old when Joseph Stalin personally ordered the boy executed for failing to salute as Stalin's motorcade drove past him during a parade in Moscow."3. More and more people around the world are dying from bacteria that have developed the ability to fight off our entire arsenal of antibiotics. How worried are you, personally, that one of these ‘superbugs" will kill you?
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Always a looser? Deficits in risk assessment
In Part One of this pair of posts, I offered the bad news that the human system of risk perception, which has done such a fabulous job of figuring out the relatively simple and obvious risks that we've faced so far, may not be the brightest bulb to light up the darkness of the complex risks we face in the future. The problem is that the human risk perception system is based more on emotion and instincts than on reason and rationality, and that bodes poorly for dealing with the immensely complex threat we all face from living unsustainably on Planet Earth. 6 billion of us - due to reach 9 billion within 40 years - are taking too much stuff from and dumping too much waste into a finite biological system. We are already starting to experience the consequences - from climate change and deforestation to loss of clean water, and fish from the ocean, we're even running low on basic non-renewable resources - yet we're counting on a risk perception system to save us that's better designed to protect us from snakes and the dark than global abstractions laced with technological complexity and unknowns.
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Behavioral Economics - Investment Psychology
What is behavioral economics?
The field of behavioral economics blends ideas from psychology and economics, and it can provide valuable insight that individuals are not behaving in their own best interests.
Behavioral economics provides a framework to understand when and how people make errors. Systematic errors or biases recur predictably in particular circumstances. Lessons from behavioral economics can be used to create environments that nudge people toward wiser decisions and healthier lives.
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Mental Health Resources
American Psychological Association
The American Psychological Association (APA) is a scientific and professional organization that represents psychologists in the United States.
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Psychology Today (general topics of interest)
View the latest from the world of psychology: from behavioral research to practical guidance on relationships, mental health, and addiction.
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Internet Mental Health
Internet Mental Health is a free encyclopedia of mental health information created in 1995 by a Canadian psychiatrist, Dr. Phillip Long.
For years, Dr. Long was one of four psychiatrists that supervised the Psychiatric Assessment Unit of Vancouver General Hospital. This unit assessed 4,000 patients a year. This emergency ward experience motivated Dr. Long to write the computerized psychiatric diagnosis program that is featured on this website.
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National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, is the nation's largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.
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National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)
NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, is the nation's largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to building better lives for the millions of Americans affected by mental illness.
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National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)
The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) is the lead federal agency for research on mental disorders.
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American Psychiatric Association (APA)
Where our society is equipped and informed—free from the stigma and bias associated with mental illness. At the APA Foundation, we focus on the nation’s most pressing social mental health issues across our society.
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How to find the right therapist (by New York Times)
Searching for the right therapist is sort of like dating.
To find The One, you need to date around, “swipe” your way through options and get a feel for who’s out there. In my own hunt, I first searched for therapists online, which led me to feel even more confused than when I began.
Lost and without any leads, I asked my best friend for a recommendation. It felt safe to seek help from a professional who came with character references — the same way I’d scan mutual friends on Facebook before agreeing to a date.
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